Five of Cups | The Empress | The World
The Full Moon in Cancer and Lunar Eclipse happening on January 10th, 2020, are not for the faint of heart. People are being asked to let go and to do real emotional work to change their circumstances. Where in your life are you hanging on a little too tightly? And what do you receive from hanging on with that death grip? How do memories of your past experience still leave you feeling unsafe, stuck, or vulnerable? When you actively work to release your feelings around your past circumstances what kind of healing do you receive?
The advice for this weekend is: Remember the past for what it is (I know it was good), but do not dwell on the past instead of living in the present moment or you will miss out on the new emotional opportunities being offered.
In your past, you had an amazing experience with someone you loved. I know this person was supportive, kind, creative, sensual, and nurturing. This person helped to shape the person you are today. You shared so many experiences. What makes this loss painful are the share memories that continue to haunt you. The trips you took, the music you listened to, the family you created, your community of friends, the inside jokes that let the world know you were in a committed partnership, you were a team. It’s difficult to see yourself separated from this person because you were all in, you were emotionally invested, but the relationship has been over for some time now, years even. Don’t be angry with the other person for growing up, or for changing or for striving for something more. I see the other person as someone who was eager and ambitious, this person’s effort compelled them to move in a new direction. In the end, I see the other person prioritized their own self-care over taking care of anyone else’s emotional needs. This can feel painful when you become used to someone else always being there to pick up the pieces or to make things easier or better.
Endings are always painful, but the person you lost also feels what you feel: regret, loss, and ultimately sadness about a relationship that didn’t work out. You are now in a position to release some of those painful emotions and to release the idea that you or the other person are at fault.
When you accept what is, you recognize that you too are worthy of a new beginning. Close out this outdated chapter. Start a new cycle. Prioritize your own feelings and your own desires. Take care of your body and your emotional needs. See beauty in the people around you. Recognize and prioritize the people who are offering you new opportunities to love once again. Real opportunities for connection will now start to come in.